He was offended! .. What to do?
Adult men are sometimes comparable with small children. They are hurt by inattention, poor-quality jokes and elevated tone. It touches the gentle soul of the male representatives. And when they are offended, we do not know what to do or what approach to find.
The prolonged silence exacerbates the situation, so it is important to find an approach to a man in time.
Psychologists conducted research, during which women and men looked at people's portraits. The task was to understand the mood of the person on the card. Men needed more minutes to complete the task, but they were wrong more often, while women looked at the image and understood the mood. Women are more astute than men, so it’s easier for them to find out the true source of resentment.
Reasons for insult
There are several serious reasons that can greatly offend a man. Let us consider in more detail in order to avoid unfounded claims in time.
Offended by the gifts. A man is offended when a woman shows neglect or dissatisfaction with his gift. Remember that it is necessary to immediately accept and use the gift, even if it is completely inappropriate or useless. To prevent this, hint to the man in advance what you expect from him. If the gift is already presented, talk later when time passes. Do not start talking at once "on the forehead." Use the feminine trick and subtly hint. So you will show a man how to appreciate the attention and unobtrusively give an idea for new presents.
He was offended by the negative attitude towards hobbies and hobbies. If you love a partner, treat with respect for his desires. Even if fishing for you, hockey match with friends or computer games seem like a useless pastime, do not show a real attitude towards them. Be interested, praise in case of success, and you will avoid many insults and disagreements.
Resentment because of friends.What to do? Women seldom favor their boyfriend’s friends. They interfere with rest and communication, as a result of which resentment arises, which a man because of love for his woman does not immediately show. Remember that dissatisfaction will show him anyway, but it is difficult to only reach a common opinion. Give your partner the opportunity to spend some time, because he likes it so that he doesn’t feel slighted.
Another complaint arises in a man to a woman when she gives too much time to her friends. Some men are against such gatherings, although they themselves are happy to spend time with their friends.
If a young man does not want to accept your friends and lifestyle, he is constantly offended, try changing yourself or find someone who will accept you with "flaws"
Offended in a relationship. When a serious relationship is established between a man and a woman, there are two reasons for serious resentment:
Representatives of the stronger sex are less sentimental, but also require that the partner show feelings and show love.
Intrafamily offenses. A frequent reason for a man's resentment is the quarrel between the woman and his family.The wife and mother are the main women in the life of a man, and if disagreements arise between them, the blame falls on the first, since the mother is the closest and closest person.
How to understand that he was offended?
To determine whether he was offended or not, understand that the character of a man is fundamentally different from that of a woman. Women, offended, show it with their appearance. They cry, complain of hardness and make hysterics. Men, on the contrary, stop talking, become sullen, give more time to work. Women, expressing claims and crying, quickly forgive the offense. Men carry a negative in themselves, accumulating even more. If you notice that your partner is gloomy, cold and monosyllabic answers questions, and yesterday you argued with him or did something unpleasant, he was offended. Take steps to bring back the relationship. When a man is "closed" for a long time, a woman appears panic. You think he has a different one. Do not panic, behave correctly, think about why a man was offended:
- heard unpleasant words;
- saw a bad deed;
- felt a chill on your part.
In order not to do stupid things, choose the right strategy and proceed to action.
How to behave and what to do?
The nature of human psychologists was divided into 4 types.Depending on temperament, men give different reactions to the same words and deeds.
Melancholic - long is depressed and depressed. In the male psychology of this type was originally laid the desire to constantly be offended. He loves to be sad and finds many reasons for it. If he is offended, it is difficult to know what to do and what oppresses him. Leave the melancholy for a while until he himself offers a truce.
Sanguine - a man who is easy to communicate. He quickly from a touchy state turns into a joyful one. It is easy to offend him, but they are just as easy to reconcile. To ask for forgiveness, it is enough to cook a delicious dinner, arrange a romantic evening. Having received positive emotions, the sanguine person will forget that he was offended and you will not have to do anything else.
Phlegmatic - the most mysterious type of character that is difficult to understand. A man accumulates resentment in himself and to understand what is happening to him is difficult. Dissatisfaction and irritation accumulates for a long time, until it comes out in the form of psychological or physical illnesses. It has been proven that among phlegmatic patients the percentage of heart attacks and strokes is highest.Communicate more often with a man, be interested in the state of mind to notice the problem in time.
Choleric - the most problematic type of character. A man with such a temperament is constantly emotionally excited. He is quick-tempered, aggressive. It helps to achieve high positions in a career, but in family life it is unbearable. Only a woman with a strong character is able to withstand antics. Choleric people do not take offense for long, because they throw out emotions immediately after discontent.
Types of temperament and character are different, but remember that this is your favorite person and try not to speak offensive words
How to apologize for the offense?
- Offended man give time to cool down and reflect on what happened. Apologies immediately after the insulting situation will lead to new clarifications and a strong quarrel. Take a pause for 1-2 days and take action.
- Apologize. Begin the conversation first. Lead a quiet conversation, talk in an even tone. Tantrums and crying only exacerbate the situation. Sincerely admit guilt and tell about your feelings. Ask for forgiveness in a personal conversation to see the reaction. Words of apology in a telephone conversation or via Internet chat lose their emotional coloring.
- Take care.Prepare a tasty dish, present a nice present or offer a massage. Feel that you value his attitude. Just do not impose. Do not be humiliated when a person does not wish to forgive a grievance.
Apologize, but do not let us humiliate. Ask for forgiveness, but don't make excuses
If the conflict has exhausted itself several days ago, and the man is offended, do not panic and do not heat up the relationship. Give him more time to be alone and deal with internal conflicts. Visit the beauty salon, organize a party with friends or spend time on shopping. If he is offended and does not put up, take a break from the situation and work on yourself. Do not jerk a man, do not make hysterics.
When a man is ready for reconciliation, the main thing to do is to go to meet him. Talk with a smile and do not push aside claims. He did not take the time to recover and restore balance. Remember that men are stressful and can withdraw into themselves. In fact, they are sensitive and need a caress. Their problem is fear of appearing weak before a woman. Show love and attention, and the man will respond with gratitude.
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